The Daily Optimist
February 8  ·  Kindness

Who Was the Woman in the Magic Shop Who Changed a Neurosurgeon's Life?

It is your thoughts that create reality. Others can create your reality only if you don't create it yourself.
— Ruth, as quoted by James Doty MD
James R. Doty MD, 'Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart' (Avery/Penguin, 2016). Ruth's identity and the events are documented in the memoir. Doty is Clinical Professor of Neurosurgery at Stanford and founder of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE).

When Jim Doty was twelve years old, he wandered into a magic shop in Lancaster, California. He was poor. His father was an alcoholic. His mother was depressed. He had no reason to believe his life would be anything other than what it already was.

The woman behind the counter was named Ruth. She had no credentials, no degrees. She ran a magic shop.

She spent the next six weeks, an hour at a time, teaching him three things: how to relax his body, how to quiet his mind, and how to open his heart. She taught him to separate himself from the voice in his head — the one that said he was worthless, the one that said nothing would work out. She called it the deejay. She said he was the one listening.

Then she taught him to visualize. To imagine, in complete detail, the future he wanted. Not wish for it. See it. Make it familiar to his brain.

She also warned him: the visualization is only as good as the heart behind it. If you don't open your heart first, you'll just get very efficiently what you don't actually need.

Jim Doty became a neurosurgeon at Stanford. Made tens of millions of dollars. Lost it all. Then, in the ruin, finally understood what Ruth had really been trying to teach him.

The magic was never about the tricks. It was about the heart.

Ruth is gone. No one would remember her if Jim hadn't written the book. But she handed something real to a twelve-year-old boy in a magic shop in the California desert, and it changed everything downstream.

Most people who change lives never know they did.

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